Successful Relationship patterns

Some of the patterns in couples who made it through lasting relationships
1. They held their relationship with each other more importantly and had boundaries with their respective families, and didn’t let their families influence them. They stayed united.
2. They were friends. Friendship was the core foundation of their relationship. They love to spend time with each other and share their secret successes and problems with each other without the fear of judgement.
3. They have been through crisis together, where  they were at crossroads and had second thoughts about the relationship, but they chose to stay together and work on the relationship to build trust and harmony
4. They let each other be themselves. There is mutual respect and admiration and no desire to change the other. Accepting each other as they are.
5. They had difficult conversations . They had open communication without the fear of judgement and respected each other’s perspectives.
6. They fought got on each other’s nerves, frustrated, also knew how to regulate their emotions, navigate conflict and bounce back, and move forward without grudges

Daily Life lessons

I have done my best. ” That is about all philosophy of living one needs. We all do our best to our knowledge, in a situation with good intentions, but yet there will be people around who judge us because they are looking for perfection, which is being delusional. Nobody is perfect. We all come with our flaws. For me, perfection is to accept yourself and others with their weakness and strength. That is unconditional self-love self-compassion self-forgiveness.

self compassion

I am worthy and deserving of respect love happiness and abundance. One doesn’t need reasons for this. But i dont know why  not only men but  women make this journey tough for themselves by putting everyone before us and by assuming we aren’t worthy or equal. We all are deserving of love and respect. I am exhausted from justifying myself over and over again to my family, friends, and society. I want to be happy and joyful to in my life. I am surrounded by people who probably love to hate me and put me down, but in reality, they are envious of who I am and how I present myself. Today, I take responsibility for my own happiness and abundance and self-love and healing.  If you are meant to be, you will still be a part of my soul journey, and if not, my blessings are always with you all .

Passion and compassion

Passion & Compassion – they go together , you cannot separate them . If you do not have passion , you do not have compassion . One lesson I have learned & learning that it is very important to feel compassion when one is on the spiritual path .  Being on this inward journey does not require disconnection but just requires passion to achieve the goal of enlightenment and compassion .

Remember to take care of yourself

Selfless actions can show others your leadership qualities, but they might drain you. You may sacrifice your time or energy for someone else, allowing them to enjoy the benefits of your labour, but you may not know where to draw the line. Giving without boundaries to others can end up depleting your energy, and you might find that you’re exhausted and unable to fulfil your commitments to yourself. Being kind is important, but remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Your children by Khalil Gibran

Your children are not your children. They are the son’s & daughters of life’s longing for itself. They come through you , but not from you , And though they are with you , yet they belong not to you .

You may give them your love , but not your thoughts . For  they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies, but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you . For life goes not  backwards nor tarries  with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and he bends you with his might that his arrows may go swift & far. Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so he loves also the bow that is stable .

KHALIL GIBRAN

Unlearning

Unlearning is the process of letting go of old beliefs, assumptions, habits, and biases that hinder our personal and professional growth. It involves challenging our existing mental models and replacing them with new ones that are more relevant, adaptive, and effective. Unlearning is not about forgetting what we already know; rather, it is about questioning what we know and being open to new ideas and perspectives. Unlearning is a continuous process that requires humility, curiosity, and willingness to experiment and fail.
We need to always unlearn and relearn and learn to develop the skills, mindset, and resilience to thrive.
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Lessons from the Bhagwad Gita

I believe that a human can learn valuable lessons from the Bhagwad Gita. The teachings in the Bhagwad Gita can provide us with guidance and insights on various aspects of life, such as duty, morality, surrender to the divine, and self-realization. These lessons can help navigate challenges, make wise decisions, and find inner peace and purpose. As for my takeaways from the Bhagwad Gita, I have learned the importance of embracing one’s responsibilities without attachment to the outcomes, cultivating a balanced mind amidst adversity, and seeking spiritual growth through self-discipline and devotion.
Additionally, the Bhagwad Gita emphasizes the significance of maintaining equanimity in both success and failure and encourages individuals to act selflessly for the greater good. By incorporating these teachings into one’s life, one can develop a deeper understanding of themselves and their soul journey in the world, ultimately leading to personal growth and fulfilment. This aspect can be used in counselling, especially when the client is only focusing on failure.
The Bhagwad Gita emphasizes the concept of dharma, or one’s duty and moral obligations. By understanding and following this principle, one can gain clarity on their purpose in life and make choices that align with their values. Additionally, the teachings of the Bhagwad Gita can inspire one to develop a strong sense of self-awareness and strive for personal growth. Overall, the wisdom found in this ancient text has the potential to greatly impact the human soul’s journey toward fulfilment and enlightenment. The lesson here is that there are challenges, but we need to understand how we can convert these into opportunities for personal growth.
Furthermore, the Bhagwad Gita encourages one to cultivate a sense of detachment from material possessions and outcomes, allowing one to cultivate a sense of contentment and freedom from attachment, also allowing one to focus on the present moment and make decisions without being driven by desires or fears. This detachment can help navigate challenges and setbacks with resilience and equanimity.

Ultimately, by incorporating the teachings of the Bhagwad Gita into one’s life, one can find a sense of purpose, inner peace, and fulfilment Just do your best to your knowing and don’t attach yourself to the results can reduce emotional and mental pain and agony.

By following the principles of the Bhagwad Gita, one can also develop a deeper understanding of their own identity and the interconnectedness of all beings. This realization can lead to a greater sense of compassion and empathy towards self and others, enhancing relationships and overall well-being. Also, the teachings of the Bhagwad Gita emphasize the importance of self-discipline and self-mastery, empowering one to overcome their limitations and achieve personal growth.
We all are on our soul journey, we should see each other as souls then only we are truly detached from our pain, fear and temporary joys. Instead don’t live in the past or the future, just focus on the now and be truly happy for the now.


Now

The lesson i learnt in my most difficult phase of my life is one day at a time, one hour at a time, and maybe one minute at a time. Don’t look back. Don’t look ahead. Just stay in that one minute, stay in now. And in that one minute, you have to stay strong, sane, and healthy to get through the tough times and keep reminding yourself that this too shall pass.