Love yourself by Leo Buscaglia

To love others you must love yourself.  You can only give to others what you have yourself.  This is especially true of love.  You cannot give what you have not learned and experienced.  Since love is not a thing, it is not lost when given.  You can offer your love completely to hundreds of people and still retain the same love you had originally.  It is like knowledge.  Wise people can teach all they know and when they’re through they’ll still know all that they have taught.  But first they must have the knowledge.  It would better be said that people “share” love, as they “share” knowledge but they can only share what they possess.

Loving oneself does not imply an ego-centered reality like the old witch in Snow White who reveled in the process of gazing into her mirror and asking, “Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all.”  Loving oneself does mean a genuine interest, caring, concern and respect for oneself.  To care about oneself is basic to love.  People love themselves when they see themselves with accuracy, genuinely appreciate what they see, but are especially excited and challenged with the prospect of what they can become.

Each person is unique.  Nature abhors sameness.  Each flower in the field is different, each blade of grass.  Have you ever seen two roses alike, even among the same variety?  No two faces are exactly alike, even in identical twins.  Our fingerprints are so singularly ours that we can be positively identified by them.

But people are strange creatures.  Diversity frightens us.  Instead of accepting the challenge, the joy, the wonder of variation, we are usually frightened of it.  We either move away from or endeavor to twist uniqueness into sameness.  Only then do we feel secure.

Each child born is an unmarked creation, a new combination of wonder.  In general, our human anatomy is similar to others, but on a subtle level even how our anatomy functions will vary with each individual.  Our personality development seems to have common elements which affect it; heredity, environment, chance.  But there is surely an additional element, not yet scientifically identifiable, which can be called the “X” factor of personality, that special combination of forces which act upon the individual so that we will react, respond, perceive as ourselves, alone.  The child is exceptional but most learning which he or she will receive from birth will not afford him or her the freedom to discover and develop this uniqueness. . . .

To love oneself is to struggle to rediscover and maintain your uniqueness.  It is understanding and appreciating the idea that you will be the only you to ever live upon this earth, that when you die so will all of your fantastic possibilities.  It is the realization that even you are not totally aware of the wonders which lie dormant within yourself.  Herbert Otto says only about 5 percent of our human potential is realized in our lifetime.  Margaret Mead has hypothesized that 4 percent is discovered.  What of the other 95 percent?

Loving yourself involves the discovery of the true wonder of you; not only the present you, but the many possibilities of you.  It involves the continual realization that you are unique, like no other person in the world, that life is, or should be, the discovery, the development and the sharing of this uniqueness.  The process is not always easy, for one is bound to find those who will feel threatened by a changing, growing you.  But it will always be exciting, always be fresh and like all things new and changing, never be dull.  The trip into oneself is the grandest, most enjoyable and longest lasting.  The fare is cheap; it merely involves continual experiencing, evaluating, educating, trying out of new behavior.  Only you can be the final judge in determining what is right for you. . . .

Loving yourself also involves the knowledge that only you can be you.  If you try to be like anyone else, you may come very close, but you will always be second best.  But, you are the best you.  It is the easiest, most practical, most rewarding thing to be.  Then it makes sense that you can only be to others what you are to yourself.

If you know, accept, and appreciate yourself and your uniqueness, you will permit others to do so.  If you value and appreciate the discovery of yourself, you will encourage others to engage in self-discovery.  If you recognize your need to be free to discover who you are, you will allow others their freedom to do so, also.  When you realize you are the best you, you will accept the fact that others are the best they.  But it follows that it all starts with you.  To the extent to which you know yourself, and we are all more alike than different, you can know others.  When you love yourself, you will love others.  And to the depth and extent to which you can love yourself, only to that depth and extent will you be able to love others.

Strength & Courage

It takes strength to be certain ,
It takes courage to have doubts.
It takes strength to fit in,
It takes courage to stand out.
It takes strength to hide your own pain,
It takes courage to show it and deal with it.
It takes strength to conquer,
It takes courage to surrender.
It takes strength to stand alone,
It takes courage to lean on a friend.
It takes strength to love,
It takes courage to be loved.

IT TAKES STRENGTH TO SURVIVE, IT TAKES COURAGE TO LIVE.
May you find strength and courage in everything you do, and may your life be filled with love and friendship ❤

Life

Remember. . . there is a deeper strength
and an amazing abundance of peace
available to you.
Draw from this well;
call on your faith to uphold you.
You will make it through this time
and find joy in life again.

Life continues around us,
even when our troubles seem to stop time.
There is good in life every day.
Take a few minutes to distract yourself
from your concerns–
long enough to draw strength from a tree or to find pleasure in a bird’s song.

Return a smile;
realize that life is a series of levels,
cycles of ups and downs–
some easy, some challenging.
Through it all, we learn;
we grow strong in faith;
we mature in understanding.
The difficult times are often
the best teachers, and there is
good to be found in all situations.
Reach for the good.
Be strong, and don’t give up.

Pamela Owens Renfro

Avoid needless Drama

Avoid needless drama and those who create it – Never create unnecessary drama, and don’t surround yourself with those who do. Choose to spend time with people who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Don’t walk away from negative people, RUN! Life is too short to spend time with folks who suck the happiness out of you……positive thoughts.com

Don’t take others for granted

It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission, but it’s kinder to ask for permission. Especially now, be sure to ask before making a decision that will affect someone else, because others are likely to be more sensitive and on-edge. At the time, you might think that what you’re doing will benefit everyone, but they may not feel the same way. While you’re going through your errands and tasks, make sure that what you’re doing won’t offend someone else.

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Your past doesn’t shape your future

Don’t let past relationships and old mistakes ruin your future. Don’t let someone or something that didn’t make it in your life continue to hurt you. If you do, you’re still giving a portion of your life to something that no longer exists – it’s like letting your happiness slip into a black hole. Learn the lesson, release the pain, and move on. Scars remind us of where we have been, not where we are headed.

Stop self abuse

Strange are the rules of the human society we live in especially for women ( we are treated as second class citizens)as long as you follow the herd you are a good kind amazing wonderful daughter wife mother etc but the minute you decide to be awakened and demand your rights as a human you are difficult person.
Why do we woman allow others to mistreat? Why do we get abuse physical psychological and financially ?
Why Why Why?

A request to all the women friends all over the world stand up for the first wrong that happened to you otherwise your silence will amount to unsigned contract of abuse with your abusers.

Words have power

I love to laugh! Who doesn’t? The subconscious mind, however, has no sense of humor. If you make a joke about yourself or put yourself down and just think—Oh, it doesn’t mean anything, I’m only kidding myself—the subconscious mind accepts it as true and creates this thought accordingly. So we have to learn to use our humor lovingly and wisely.

There’s so much humor in life that it’s not necessary to denigrate another person or group with put-downs. Even in humor we’re working to help make the world a more loving and safer place to live.

Because words have power, I pay attention to them and carefully select them. I know my thoughts and my words shape my life, like a potter shapes clay into a bowl, a vase, a dinner plate, or a teapot. I am the words I think and speak. So why not create space inside myself for loving, optimistic, and cheerful patterns to constantly germinate, take root, and grow? Laughter is good.

You are the light of the world. Follow your inner star to sparkle and shine in your own unique way. You have a beautiful soul, and an outer body and a personality. But your soul is the center. Your soul is the part of you that’s eternal. Your soul can’t be hurt or destroyed. It can only be enriched by whatever your life experiences are. I believe that laughing, singing, and dancing are natural, normal spontaneous expressions. So, don’t worry, be happy, and dance your way through life.

Louise Hay.

Don’t Judge

Whether you’re judging others, or feeling judged, at its core, a judgment is an opinion or decision based on thoughts, feelings and evidence. ..and may not be true always .
Judging and assuming the other person is very hurtful and humiliating for the person being judged .
At the same time others opinion shouldn’t matter to you but if the others are the important significant people in your life than it is hurting to constantly being judged .

Next time be careful with your thoughts & behaviour.

Have a nice day

You deserve the best

There are people who have broken your heart. Who have hurt you. Who have broken your trust. But look carefully. There are some who love you, who trust you and are proud of you. Yes, there were things that didn’t work. There were moments when life was really harsh. But think carefully. There were moments when things worked out the way you wanted. When you were smiling.

When life was pleasant. Yes, you made mistakes. You felt bad for yourself. But think carefully. There were moments when you were proud of yourself. When you followed your heart. When you did what you wanted to do. So relax. Your past is gone. Shape your future and have fun in the present. Life is never the way we want it to be. But that’s the way it is.

You are not perfect. No one else is. You have flaws. Everyone has. You made mistakes. Everyone has. You failed at something. Everyone has. You can try again. So relax. You are a good human being. You are lovable. You are beautiful. Don’t be so harsh on your life. Love yourself. Because you deserve the best and that is you.