We often form subconscious beliefs about others based on assumptions or past experiences, and these limiting beliefs can deeply affect our relationships. Over time, we create mental images of the people around us—partners, friends, or family members—rooted in our perceptions, fears, and expectations. Unfortunately, when these beliefs go unchecked, they can distort reality and hinder our ability to connect authentically.
Limiting beliefs are mental barriers we subconsciously create, and they influence how we interpret behaviour, communication, and emotions. For instance, if you’ve previously been hurt by someone, you might begin to assume that everyone has the potential to hurt you. This assumption affects your ability to trust, keeping you guarded in new relationships. Or you might believe that your partner “never listens,” creating a narrative where even genuine attempts at communication go unappreciated.
The most damaging part of these limiting beliefs is that they often operate without our awareness. Our subconscious beliefs colour our perception of reality, convincing us that our interpretations are objective truths. In reality, they might be far from accurate. When we cling to these distorted views, we limit our ability to engage in open and honest communication. Relationships begin to deteriorate under the weight of assumptions and unmet expectations.
The first step to breaking free from limiting beliefs is awareness. Take time to reflect on how you perceive others. Are your thoughts and reactions based on assumptions, or are they grounded in present realities? By consciously questioning your beliefs, you can begin to identify which are serving you and which are holding you back.
Once you recognize your limiting beliefs, it becomes essential to communicate more openly with yourself and others. Instead of assuming someone’s intentions, ask questions, seek clarity, and be willing to hear their side of the story. This conscious approach allows for deeper connection, understanding, and empathy.
In the end, relationships—whether with ourselves or others—thrive on trust, openness, and adaptability. By operating more consciously and recognizing how our beliefs shape our interactions, we pave the way for healthier, more authentic connections.
The Addiction to Freedom: A High Like No Other
Pursuing freedom can be the most exhilarating and empowering experience in life. Unlike fleeting highs that come from external pleasures, the addiction to freedom stems from within and offers something far more profound. It’s a liberation of the mind and spirit, an escape from the invisible cage we often build around ourselves — a cage where the door is always open, but we hesitate to step out.
This “golden cage” represents the comforts we cling to: material success, social validation, or familiar routines. These can provide a sense of security, but they also limit our potential and keep us trapped in cycles that prevent true fulfilment. The door is open, yet we remain inside, scared to abandon what’s known for the uncertainty that comes with freedom.
However, once we take that first step out of the cage, we discover that the freedom to live authentically is high like no other. It’s the freedom to choose, pursue passions, embrace who we truly are, without the weight of societal expectations or self-imposed limitations. It’s addictive not because it numbs us but because it awakens us to endless possibilities. We become addicted to the feeling of living on our terms, unshackled from fear, guilt, or conformity.
In this addiction to freedom, we find clarity, purpose, and a sense of boundless growth. It’s not just a temporary escape but a lasting transformation, where every moment feels richer, more vibrant, and truly our own. The golden cage may have been comfortable, but nothing compares to the thrill of living freely.
Watch Your Words, Your Thoughts, and Your Company
The power of words, thoughts, and the company we keep can not be underestimated. Words shape how we interact with the world; they can uplift or tear down, both ourselves and others. Positive language fosters confidence, creates connections, and helps us build supportive relationships. In contrast, negative words can perpetuate self-doubt and conflict.
Similarly, our thoughts are crucial in shaping our mental state and the quality of our lives. What we think consistently becomes our reality. Positive, empowering thoughts help us overcome challenges, build resilience, and stay motivated, while negative thinking can trap us in fear, insecurity, and inaction.
The company we keep influences our thoughts and actions. Surrounding ourselves with people who encourage and inspire us can elevate our mindset and drive us to achieve more. On the other hand, toxic relationships can drain our energy, reinforce negative thinking, and keep us from reaching our potential.
To live a fulfilling life, we must be mindful of our words, guard our thoughts, and choose our company wisely. By doing so, we nurture a healthy mindset, foster supportive relationships, and create an environment where growth and positivity flourish.
Relationship like Tom and Jerry
Some relationships are like Tom and Jerry. You can’t live with each other and also without each other. Going through all the hardships and crossing the obstacles makes for a strong personality. That is what Tom & Jerry stood for. No matter what happens, every scar is a story to tell, and every experience is a lesson learnt.
Make peace with yourself
Until you make peace with yourself and your current condition, you’re powerless to change. Until you say yes to what your life experience is right now, you’ll continually find yourself in a state of conflict, wanting things to be different. How can you be in harmony if you’re at war within, hurting yourself with your thoughts and behaviours? How can you affect lasting change in your life if you’re spending so much energy hating and judging yourself?
Do you believe that you and the people around you need to be perfect in order for you to be happy? The beauty and harmony that you seek in the outer world is actually within you. When you accept all aspects of yourself, you’ll discover that this includes the part of you that wants to “pig out” at lunchtime or that seeks fulfilment through food.
If you can’t come to terms with (and give love and redirection to) all the parts of you that aren’t currently on board with your goal, you’re going to hit a wall of frustration or emptiness over and over. Like a child clamouring for his mother’s attention, any part of you that you reject can take on a life of its own and act out in very destructive ways, such as out-of-control eating.
We all tend to separate and judge parts of ourselves, creating an inner environment of separation and angst. Well, you can choose to stop doing this, even if it feels unfamiliar to be at peace inside. Be merciful and love yourself, even as you’re perceiving your weaknesses.
All too often, you may forget to have compassion for your own humanity and the difficulties and challenges you face. Even if you feel disconnected from your sense of kindness and are much more in touch with cynicism and judgment, you still have the capacity to return to your true, innate attribute of love.
When you’re forgiving toward yourself, it doesn’t mean that you condone actions that hurt you or sabotage your plans. You won’t say, “Oh well, I binge on an entire bag of chips almost every night, and that’s okay, so I’m not going to do anything about it.” What you’ll do is stop spending time beating yourself up and instead focus your energy on looking at some of your motivations, discovering where you’re going wrong, and figuring out strategies that can help you fulfill your own needs and achieve your heart’s true desire.
You may think that if you’re hard enough on yourself, you can force yourself to change. In fact, the opposite is true: Berating yourself gets you feeling so miserable that you give up any motivation to persevere toward your goals. When you truly honour and accept yourself exactly as you are right now, however, it’s much easier to transform your thoughts and behaviours.
Rena Greenberg
Successful Relationship patterns
Some of the patterns in couples who made it through lasting relationships
1. They held their relationship with each other more importantly and had boundaries with their respective families, and didn’t let their families influence them. They stayed united.
2. They were friends. Friendship was the core foundation of their relationship. They love to spend time with each other and share their secret successes and problems with each other without the fear of judgement.
3. They have been through crisis together, where they were at crossroads and had second thoughts about the relationship, but they chose to stay together and work on the relationship to build trust and harmony
4. They let each other be themselves. There is mutual respect and admiration and no desire to change the other. Accepting each other as they are.
5. They had difficult conversations . They had open communication without the fear of judgement and respected each other’s perspectives.
6. They fought got on each other’s nerves, frustrated, also knew how to regulate their emotions, navigate conflict and bounce back, and move forward without grudges
Listen to yourself
Daily Life lessons
I have done my best. ” That is about all philosophy of living one needs. We all do our best to our knowledge, in a situation with good intentions, but yet there will be people around who judge us because they are looking for perfection, which is being delusional. Nobody is perfect. We all come with our flaws. For me, perfection is to accept yourself and others with their weakness and strength. That is unconditional self-love self-compassion self-forgiveness.
self compassion
I am worthy and deserving of respect love happiness and abundance. One doesn’t need reasons for this. But i dont know why not only men but women make this journey tough for themselves by putting everyone before us and by assuming we aren’t worthy or equal. We all are deserving of love and respect. I am exhausted from justifying myself over and over again to my family, friends, and society. I want to be happy and joyful to in my life. I am surrounded by people who probably love to hate me and put me down, but in reality, they are envious of who I am and how I present myself. Today, I take responsibility for my own happiness and abundance and self-love and healing. If you are meant to be, you will still be a part of my soul journey, and if not, my blessings are always with you all .
Passion and compassion
Passion & Compassion – they go together , you cannot separate them . If you do not have passion , you do not have compassion . One lesson I have learned & learning that it is very important to feel compassion when one is on the spiritual path . Being on this inward journey does not require disconnection but just requires passion to achieve the goal of enlightenment and compassion .
SELF LOVE AND SOUL HEALING 