When holding on becomes heavier than moving on We often speak about letting go as though it is an act of weakness. As though letting go means you stopped caring.You surrendered. You lost. You gave up on something you once desperately wanted. But perhaps we have misunderstood what letting go really is. Sometimes, letting goContinue reading “The Art of Letting Go”
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You Remember Who I Was, Not Who I Became
Sometimes I wonder if people continue to live with an old version of us long after we have moved on from her. Perhaps I was that person once. Perhaps I was impatient, harsh, reactive, or difficult. I can own that. I have grown, reflected, softened, and changed. But sometimes people don’t grow with our growth.Continue reading “You Remember Who I Was, Not Who I Became”
The Thread Between Past, Present and Future
The past, present, and future are not separate chapters. They are deeply interlinked. The past shapes our beliefs, our fears, our patterns, and sometimes even the choices we make without realizing it. The present is where those choices come alive. And the future is often the consequence of what we choose today. Every choice carriesContinue reading “The Thread Between Past, Present and Future”
Just Because I Can, Doesn’t Mean I Have To
For most of my life, I have been someone who could manage a lot. I moved fast. I took responsibility. I handled things without making too much noise about how much they were taking out of me. And somewhere along the way, I became very good at saying yes—sometimes before I had even asked myselfContinue reading “Just Because I Can, Doesn’t Mean I Have To”
When Your Child Remembers You Differently
Today, my oldest daughter told me something that stayed with me. She said she remembers me saying mean things to them. For a moment, I found myself looking back at those years through a different lens. Because I remember things differently. I remember trying to be honest. I remember saying what I believed was theContinue reading “When Your Child Remembers You Differently”
When Being Always There Becomes Being Taken for Granted
A mother is always there. Not just physically, but emotionally, mentally, quietly. She is there through the ordinary days, the difficult days, the arguments, the disappointments, the celebrations, the illnesses, the growing pains, and all the little moments in between. Irrespective of how the children behave, what they say, or what they do, a motherContinue reading “When Being Always There Becomes Being Taken for Granted”
Maybe There Is No Perfect Timing
We often talk about perfect timing. We wait for the right moment to say what we feel, to make that phone call, to express our love, to take that decision, to begin something new. We tell ourselves, “I’ll do it when the time is right.” But lately, I have begun to wonder, what if thereContinue reading “Maybe There Is No Perfect Timing”
The Feeling of Lack
Sometimes, the greatest lack in life is not the absence of something. It is the inability to see what is already present. We keep looking at what is missing, the money we don’t have, the relationship we wish were different, the security we haven’t found, the future we cannot predict. And somewhere in that constantContinue reading “The Feeling of Lack”
Was It Love, or Was It Need?
For years, I never questioned the difference between love and need. Perhaps because they coexist so quietly that, at times, you don’t even know which one is speaking. I thought I stayed because I loved. I kept adjusting because I cared. I kept hoping because I believed that somewhere underneath everything, there was love. YearsContinue reading “Was It Love, or Was It Need?”
He Didn’t Hate Me — He Just Didn’t Love Me Enough to Care
For years, I carried a belief that he hated me. I thought the way I was treated, the things I went through, and the years of emotional and financial uncertainty were because he wanted to hurt me. I kept asking myself, How could someone who once shared a life with me be so indifferent toContinue reading “He Didn’t Hate Me — He Just Didn’t Love Me Enough to Care”
