Smile– A smile is a choice, not a miracle. Don’t wait for people to smile. Show them how. A genuine smile makes you and everyone around you feel better. The simple act of smiling sends a message to your brain that you’re happy. And when you’re happy, your body pumps out all kinds of feel-good endorphins. This reaction has been studied since the 1980’s and has been proven a number of times. Bottom line: Smiling actually makes you happier.
Keep smiling!
Anger
When They Call It “Anger Issues” But It’s Really Just Years of Being Disrespected.
Let’s get one thing straight: anger is not the enemy. Anger is a signal. A flare. A final, desperate attempt by your body and soul to say enough is enough.
I’ve been called names. “Stupid housewife.” “Overreacting.” “Too emotional.” I’ve been dismissed and disrespected—not by strangers, but by the very people I’ve poured myself into. The people I’ve stood by, cared for, supported, unconditionally. Day in, day out. For years.
And for what?
To be told, I have “anger management issues” because I finally spoke up?
No. That’s not what this is.
This isn’t about losing control. This is about what happens when your voice is ignored for too long. When you’re constantly put down, mocked, belittled—and you’re expected to stay silent, smile, and serve.
This is what happens when the only time people start paying attention to you is when you finally raise your voice—and then, instead of listening, they twist the narrative. Suddenly you are the problem. You are the danger. You need fixing.
But here’s something they never see: I’ve been working on myself for years. I’ve tried to stay calm, tried to respond instead of react, and tried to carry myself with patience even when I felt like breaking down inside. I’ve read, I’ve reflected, I’ve grown. I’ve done the work, and I the inner is still ongoing.
But it doesn’t matter. Because in their minds, the version of me they’ve decided on—the “angry” one, the “difficult” one—is the only version they’re willing to see. They hold onto that image like a script they refuse to rewrite, no matter how much I change.
Let’s call it what it is: emotional neglect. Disrespect, normalized. Gaslighting, dressed up as “concern.”
I am tired. Not because I’m angry—but because I’ve had to carry the emotional labour of this family while being told I don’t matter. Because the second I set a boundary or say “this isn’t okay,” I’m made out to be the villain.
Well, I’m not the villain. I’m the one who’s been holding this whole thing together.
So here’s a message to anyone who’s ever judged someone like me: if you’re more uncomfortable with a woman raising her voice than with the years of silence that came before it, maybe you’re the one who needs to look in the mirror.
Anger isn’t the problem. The problem is the disrespect that caused it. And if you really cared, you’d stop diagnosing and start listening.
I may be exhausted, but I’m not broken. I’m still standing, still speaking, still choosing to believe that my voice matters. And I will keep showing up—for myself this time. Not to prove anything to those who never tried to understand, but because I finally know I deserve better.
Love yourself
🙆🏻♀️ *”Do you love ❤️ me?”* Alice asked.
*”No, I don’t love you!”* replied the White Rabbit 🐰.
Alice frowned and clasped her hands together as she did whenever she felt hurt.
*”See?”* replied the White Rabbit. *”Now you’re going to start asking yourself what makes you so imperfect and what did you do wrong so that I can’t love you at least a little. You know, that’s why I can’t love you. You will not always be loved Alice, there will be days when others will be tired and bored with life, will have their heads in the clouds, and will hurt you.*
Because people are like that, they somehow always end up hurting each other’s feelings, whether through carelessness, misunderstanding, or conflicts with themselves.
If you don’t love yourself, at least a little, if you don’t create an armor of self-love and happiness around your heart, the feeble annoyances caused by others will become lethal and will destroy you.
The first time I saw you, I made a pact with myself: *’I will avoid loving you until you learn to love ❤️ yourself.’*
— Lewis Carrol, Alice in Wonderland
AbundanceActivators
1. GIVING OUT: Giving out is about your TIME, TALENT & TREASURE, especially in areas where you’re holding back. Giving out is about adding more value through your time, talent, and treasure, especially if you have fallen into the trap of “waiting” for things to change, for the right time or opportunity.
Time is about helping others or serving others without conditions.
TALENT is about giving more value through your abilities.
Treasure is about giving money to your source of spiritual nourishment.
We are put on this earth to add value where value is needed. We provide value and are compensated for it. It’s a beautiful exchange of energy.
2. GIVING AWAY: GIVING away is about releasing things you don’t need or use anymore. All the stuff you’re holding onto in your closets, cupboards, garage, store rooms that you can’t let go. It’s symbolic of a greater overhaul. It’s a stuck energy with a story of lack or limitations attached. When we take out time to clear out any excess – anything from clothes to friendship/ relationship we’ve outgrown to business tasks that drain us – we clear the way for new and productive energy to flow freely. As you let this energy flow again, in the form of giving away,throwing away, or selling these things, it makes room for the NEW ABUNDANCE to flow in.
3. GIVING UP: GIVING up is almost letting go of habitual resentment, criticism, judgement, complaining, or physical habits that aren’t congruent with your higher vision or goals. Something more is trying to emerge, but if you’re holding on to these vibrationally heavier habits, they’re holding you down, blocking the flow, and increasing your struggle and pain. We do have a RIGHT to feel angry or sad, but does it feel good ?? Our feelings are the bridge to our circumstances. We need to give up feeling bad. When you hold onto negativity, you block the flow of abundance. Raise yourself to a higher frequency by being mindful of your thoughts and feelings. Make an effort to feel only positive emotions.
4. GIVING IN: Giving in is about SURRENDER. You’ve activated a larger life but are still holding on to smaller self-concepts. You will not be able to grow to the next level without releasing this resistance and surrendering to what’s trying to emerge. When you can open yourself up to a true surrender of what is keeping you stuck, only then can you begin to SHIFT and RELEASE it. The floodgates of blessings will open if you can quiet the voice of the EGO and trust the guidance of the DIVINE.
5. GIVING THANKS : If you take a moment to inventory your life, you will likely find that you are already quite abundant in many areas. No, it’s at that moment that you can activate a partnership with the universe by maintaining a deep feeling of gratitude for all that you already have .
An attitude of gratitude is the foundation of abundance. When you live in gratitude, the universe gives you things to be grateful for. Align yourself to the same frequency as abundance .
6. GIVING TO YOURSELF: Whatever you’re trying to get from ” out there” is blocking the flow of it in your life because whatever’s missing is what you’re not giving. We teach others and the world how to treat us by way of example. When you demonstrate love for yourself, you send a signal that you are to be loved. When you set boundaries,you teach people about what is most important to you. When you flow your heart and live a life of purpose, the universe rises and meets you halfway, graciously revealing your next best steps.
As you strive to spend more of your moments in alignment with your deepest desire, the law of attraction begins to work in your favour, and the blessings pour in.
7. FORGIVING: Forgiving is a powerful gift and principle. The magic is in the word itself, For-Giving. It’s about giving, not getting. It’s about extending yourself, not withholding. It’s about loving your enemies, praying for those who hurt you, returning love for hate, releasing everyone from karmic & emotional debt so that I your heart nobody owes you anything and vice versa This way, the energy gets freed up. Forgiveness does not make you weak. On the contrary, it takes great strength and the compassion of a leader to forgive someone who has wronged you and to forgive yourself. As the forgiver, you regain control of your thoughts and emotions. Your energy had been on loan to another, and Forgiveness restores it to you.
Inspired by ” The wealth Activators ” by Derek Rydall.
The Silent Struggle: Men’s Mental Health and the Fear of Speaking Up
For too many men, pain stays locked behind a smile and buried under the weight of silence. Mental health is not a gendered issue, but the way it’s handled often is. While conversations around emotional well-being are becoming more open, men still face an uphill battle when it comes to expressing their thoughts, needs, and struggles.
The reason? Fear. Fear of being judged. Fear of being seen as weak. Fear of being ridiculed or misunderstood.
From a young age, boys are taught — directly or indirectly — that being “manly” means being tough, stoic, and unshakable. Vulnerability is often mistaken for weakness. Crying or showing emotion gets labelled as soft. And so, many men grow up suppressing their feelings, bottling them up until the pressure becomes unbearable.
This pressure is compounded by society’s image of what a “real man” should be: strong, independent, always in control. But mental health doesn’t care how masculine you are. Depression, anxiety, trauma — they don’t discriminate. They creep in, quietly and persistently, often hidden behind sarcasm, anger, or silence.
The consequences are serious. Suicide rates among men are significantly higher than among women in many countries. Substance abuse, violence, and self-isolation are often coping mechanisms when healthy outlets feel out of reach. And still, too many men hesitate to ask for help because they’re afraid of what others will think.
It’s time we change that.
Mental strength isn’t about suffering in silence — it’s about having the courage to speak up. Real masculinity should include emotional honesty. Talking to a friend, seeing a therapist, or simply admitting that things aren’t okay is not a weakness. It’s self-respect. It’s taking control, not losing it.
We also need to do our part to create safe spaces. Listen without judgment. Check in with the men in your life — not just about work or sports, but about how they’re really doing. Let them know it’s okay to drop the act.
The more we normalize emotional openness, the more lives we’ll save. Men don’t need to suffer quietly. They need to be heard. Let’s stop equating silence with strength — and start building a world where speaking up is not just accepted but expected.
Karmic Closure: Learning Through Contrast
There’s a point in your life when things start to feel like they’re coming full circle. Old patterns return—not to punish, but to teach. This is karmic closure. It’s the quiet but powerful moment when you realize the chaos, the pain, and the heartbreaks were never random. They were assignments. And you’re finally graduating.
Lately, I’ve been moving through what feels like the last lap of an emotional marathon. Old wounds resurface. Familiar dynamics test me. But this time, I’m not reacting the same way. That’s the difference. That’s the growth. This is what healing looks like—not perfect but different. Not passive, but conscious.
I’m learning that growth doesn’t always look like adding new habits or gaining new insights. Sometimes, it’s about unlearning—shedding the beliefs that were never truly ours. The idea that we have to earn love. That we have to prove our worth. That struggle is a prerequisite for peace. These are things I’m leaving behind.
We don’t grow by staying in the light. We grow through contrast. By feeling the sting of not being chosen, we learn to choose ourselves. By sitting in rejection, we find acceptance. It’s not about becoming perfect—it’s about becoming whole. Every hard moment was a mirror, showing us the parts of ourselves we needed to see.
For a long time, I chased worthiness outside of myself. If I worked harder, looked better, and cared more—maybe then I’d be enough. But chasing something that’s already inside you is exhausting. And pointless. What I’ve learned is that worth isn’t something you earn; it’s something you remember. It’s a quiet truth that lives beneath the noise of fear and conditioning.
Contrast teaches. You don’t know freedom until you’ve felt trapped. You don’t understand peace until you’ve lived with chaos. And you can’t truly love yourself until you’ve faced the parts of you that felt unlovable. These are the lessons I’m holding with gratitude—not because the pain was easy, but because it was necessary.
Karmic closure isn’t just about ending a chapter. It’s about integrating the story. Taking the pain and turning it into wisdom. Owning your role in the pattern, but also forgiving yourself for not knowing better at the time. You’re not here to be perfect. You’re here to evolve.
I’m not who I was, and I’m not yet who I’m becoming. But I’m in that sacred space between—a liminal zone where endings blur into beginnings. It’s messy. It’s real. And it’s where the magic happens.
To anyone else walking through the fire right now: keep going. You’re not being punished—you’re being initiated. And when you come out the other side, you’ll carry light you never knew you had.
We Were Together Like Railway Tracks
We were together like railway tracks — always beside each other, moving in the same direction, bound by a shared path, yet never truly meeting. It’s a metaphor that encapsulates the quiet ache of emotional distance in a relationship that, from the outside, seemed to be aligned.
There was routine, a sense of partnership, shared responsibilities, and even laughter at times. But beneath it all was a silent truth: we were two people running parallel, not intertwined. We looked like a team, functioned like one, and moved forward through life’s stations side by side — and yet, something was always missing. Connection.
Like railway tracks, we supported the same train — the home, the children, the daily grind. But the closeness was an illusion. We didn’t intersect emotionally. We didn’t meet in vulnerability, in true understanding, or in raw, unfiltered presence. We lived lives filled with ‘doing’ rather than ‘being’ — always moving, never stopping to really see each other.
I used to believe proximity meant connection. Being physically close, sleeping in the same bed, and sharing meals and travelling meant we were together. But I’ve come to understand that emotional intimacy isn’t guaranteed by geography. It’s built in those moments of stillness, eye contact, heart-to-heart honesty — all of which became rare.
Sometimes, I would reach out, hoping for that spark, the crossing point, the intersection where we could meet — heart, mind, and soul. But each attempt felt like a passing signal, acknowledged briefly and then forgotten. The more we moved forward, the more I realized we were just going through the motions.
And that’s the paradox of being like railway tracks. You’re essential to the journey. You carry the same weight. You share the same goal. But you are still apart.
Now, I choose to pause at my own station. To reflect on what it means to truly meet someone — and to not mistake being beside someone for being with them. Maybe the tracks we were on weren’t broken — maybe they just weren’t meant to merge.
Some journeys aren’t about meeting in the end. They’re about realizing when it’s time to stop running parallel and start finding your own path — one that leads not just beside someone but toward a true connection.
The Power of Intuition: A Free Gift That Shapes Our World
Intuition is often misunderstood. People associate it with mysticism or gut feelings that can’t be explained. But intuition is not magic—it’s a quiet, powerful process that draws on experience, observation, and pattern recognition. It’s a gift, yes—but one anyone can develop.
“Intuition is a gift that is as free as the breeze. Its compelling clarity spawns inventions and bridges uncertainties.” That sentence captures something vital: intuition isn’t just a vague sense. It’s a form of inner clarity that helps us make bold decisions, navigate uncertainty, and even spark creativity in moments of doubt.
What Is Intuition?
At its core, intuition is fast, subconscious thinking. It’s how your brain makes sense of complex situations when there’s no time for step-by-step analysis. Have you ever made a decision you couldn’t justify logically—but it turned out to be right? That’s intuition at work.
Contrary to the myth, it’s not anti-rational. It works alongside reason, drawing on your internalized knowledge and experience over time. In short, it’s an informed instinct.
Why Intuition Matters
Think of all the key breakthroughs in history—scientific discoveries, technological inventions, and creative masterpieces. Many of them began not with data but with a hunch. An unshakeable sense that something was worth exploring.
Inventors often say they “just knew” a concept would work before they could prove it. Entrepreneurs take risks not because the numbers guarantee success but because their intuition tells them there’s something there. That’s the compelling clarity intuition brings. It doesn’t just help you make choices—it helps you trust them.
In uncertain times, when logic runs out and variables multiply, intuition becomes essential. It bridges the gap between what we know and what we can’t yet fully see.
How to Develop Your Intuition
Intuition isn’t a rare talent. It’s a skill—and like any skill, it improves with practice.
Here’s how to sharpen yours:
1. Pay Attention to Patterns
Intuition feeds on exposure. The more you observe how things work—people, systems, outcomes—the more your brain can spot patterns subconsciously. Reflect on past decisions and outcomes. What worked? What didn’t? What did your gut say?
2. Create Quiet Space
Noise—mental or digital—drowns out intuition. Step away from constant stimulation. Take walks. Sit in silence. Let your mind wander. That’s when intuitive thoughts surface.
3. Trust Small Hunches
Start with low-stakes situations. Follow your gut on small decisions and track how it plays out. Over time, you’ll build confidence in your inner compass.
4. Balance Intuition with Reason
Strong intuition doesn’t ignore facts. It works best when checked against logic. Use it to guide your questions and direct your attention—not to replace critical thinking, but to enhance it.
5. Learn From Diverse Inputs
Expose yourself to different experiences, ideas, and people. Intuition thrives when it has a wide library to draw from. The more varied your inputs, the sharper your instincts become.
Final Thoughts
Intuition is not a shortcut. It’s a different kind of intelligence—one that operates beneath the surface but proves itself in outcomes. It’s as free as the breeze, yes. But like the wind, it can shape powerful change when channelled well.
Developing your intuition isn’t about rejecting logic. It’s about embracing another layer of insight—one that can lead you to breakthroughs when certainty is out of reach.
So pay attention. Stay open. And trust that your mind knows more than you think it does.
Perseverance: The Quiet Power Behind Every Success
In a world that glorifies overnight success and viral breakthroughs, it’s easy to believe that a single burst of effort—a grand gesture, a big risk, or one intense push—is all it takes to achieve our dreams. But the truth is far less glamorous and far more grounded: real success is built through perseverance.
A single burst of effort may get us started, but it rarely carries us to the finish line. The road to any meaningful goal is long, winding, and often filled with setbacks. It’s not the one-time leap that defines us—it’s the willingness to keep walking, even when the path gets hard, when motivation wanes, and when results are slow to show up.
Perseverance means showing up when it’s boring, staying focused when it’s tough, and moving forward when it’s tempting to quit. It’s the quiet decision to try again after failure, to refine after rejection, and to trust the process even when the destination seems distant.
Every writer who’s finished a book, every athlete who’s trained for years, every entrepreneur who’s built something from the ground up—they all share this one trait: perseverance. It’s not about talent alone or timing. It’s about the resolve to keep going, one step at a time.
Success doesn’t come from intensity—it comes from consistency. It’s not the fire of one moment but the steady burn of commitment that makes dreams real.
So, if you’re feeling stuck, tired, or unsure, remember this: you don’t need to do everything today. You just need to keep going. Progress is progress, no matter how small.
In the end, it’s not the spark that lights the whole journey—it’s the flame that refuses to die out.
Trauma as a Teacher: The Wake-Up Call We Never Asked For
Trauma was my wake-up call; it hurt, but it also showed me who I AM.
We don’t choose trauma. It crashes in uninvited—messy, painful, disorienting. And yet, for many of us, it becomes the pivot point. The moment everything changed. Not because we wanted it, but because we couldn’t ignore it. When it hit me, I didn’t feel brave or wise. I felt broken and confused, like the ground I was standing on had disappeared.
At that time, it felt like the worst thing that could happen. Now? I see it differently.
What if trauma isn’t just something to survive but something that is revealed?
Not in a “think positive” way that ignores real pain—but in the raw truth that, once shattered, you don’t put the pieces back the same way. You build something new. Something more honest.
Trauma strips away illusions. The stories we told ourselves. The roles we played. It forces us to confront what’s real—about ourselves, our limits, our values, and our path. It’s contrast: darkness that teaches us to recognise our light. My trauma became my teacher. Maybe it’s not punishment. Maybe it’s permission—to wake up. To remember what matters. To remember who we are and our soul journey.
Because sometimes the universe whispers, and we ignore it. Then it shakes us. And that shake—violent as it may be—isn’t the end. It’s an activation. A reset. A deeper calling that says: you were made for more than just getting by.
So no, I and you didn’t deserve what happened. But we get to decide what happens next.
Carl Jung once said, “I am not what happened to me; I am what I choose to become.”
That line stayed with me. Over time, I realized my trauma wasn’t just pain—it was a mirror. It showed me everything I had been avoiding: the wounds I never healed, the patterns I kept repeating, and the parts of myself I’d silenced.
It was a brutal kind of clarity. But it was also honest.
I started to see that life wasn’t punishing me. It was trying to wake me up. I had been asleep to myself—distracted, disconnected, and living for everyone but me. Trauma interrupted that autopilot. It was the shake I needed.
If you’re carrying trauma, know this: it’s not your identity. But it might be your initiation. Into something real. Into purpose. Into a version of you that was always there—just waiting to be remembered.
“Life doesn’t happen to you; it happens for you.” – Tony Robbins
That quote used to sound cliché. Until it didn’t. Until I lived through it. And I saw that even in the breakdown, something was forming—a new way of seeing, of feeling, of being. The pain didn’t just tear me down. It showed me what needed rebuilding.
I wouldn’t wish trauma on anyone. But I can say this with full truth: it activated me.
It pushed me into my healing. Into deeper awareness. Into purpose. It made me question everything—and in that questioning, I remembered who I am.
So no, trauma isn’t your identity. But it might be your catalyst. It might be the moment your soul decided: enough sleepwalking—it’s time to wake up.
You don’t have to be grateful for what hurt you. But you can respect what it taught you.
I do. It changed everything.
SELF LOVE AND SOUL HEALING 