the mindful path to self-compassion – CHRISTOPHER K. GERMER

When we’re caught up in our pain, we also go to war against ourselves. The body protects itself against danger through fight, flight, or freeze (staying frozen in place), but when we’re challenged emotionally, these reactions become an unholy trinity of self-criticism, self-isolation, and self-absorption. A healing alternative is to cultivate a new relationship to ourselves described by research psychologist Kristin Neff as self-kindness, a sense of connection with the rest of humanity, and balanced awareness. That’s self-compassion.

. The Dalai Lama said, “[Compassion] is the state of wishing that the object of our compassion be free of suffering…. Yourself first, and then in a more advanced way the aspiration will embrace others.” It makes sense, doesn’t it, that we won’t be able to empathize with others if we can’t tolerate the same feelings—despair, fear, failure, shame—occurring within ourselves? And how can we pay the slightest attention to others when we’re absorbed in our own internal struggles?

The agony of Being Connected to everything in the Universe- Andrew Boyd

Compassion hurts. When you feel connected to everything, you also feel responsible for everything. And you cannot turn away. Your destiny is bound with the destinies of others. You must either learn to carry the Universe or be crushed by it. You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors.” – Andrew Boyd, Daily Afflictions: The Agony of Being Connected to Everything in the Universe

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra



1. The Law of Pure Potentiality
Take time to be silent, to just BE. Meditate for 30 minutes twice a day. Silently witness the intelligence within every living thing. Practice non-judgment. We have unlimited pure potentiality all around us. We need to be open and ready do not lock you into one thing. The universe is gives us the ability to manifest and do what we like we just have to know how to get it. There is unlimited pure potential.


2. The Law of Giving and Receiving
Today bring whoever you encounter a gift: a compliment or flower. Gratefully receive gifts. Keeps wealth circulating by giving and receiving care, affection, appreciation and love? We have to have the ability to receive. When a person gives us something and we say no that is creating an imbalance. It is important to give every day: give thanks, gratitude, support, love freedom, what you can afford, time. All that you give you will receive back bigger and better than ever.
3. The Law of Karma
Every action generates a force of energy that returns to us in like kind. Choosing actions that bring happiness and success to others ensures the flow of happiness and success to you. Everything you do has choices and generates that energy that will be returned to you. Before you do something .you can check to see if it is the highest and good for you and all. You will know if it is good if you feel good. If it feels like a knot in your belly after a choice that may not have been the highest and best. But each choice is a learning experience

4. The Law of Least Effort
Accept people, situations, and events as they occur. Take responsibility for your situation and for all events seen as problems. Relinquish the need to defend your point of view. This one goes ageist what we have learned set a goal and work hard, spend a lot of time, you need work hard to get things…Wrong. The universe and nature finds the path of least resistance which is the least effort. We need to work smart and listen to the signs that the universe is giving us that are the path of least effort. When in a chaos do not get caught up in it and let it get to you take time and breath. Then just flow in the situation the outcome will be turn out better then you can imagine

5. The Law of Intention and Desire
Inherent in every intention and desire is the mechanics for its fulfillment. Make a list of desires. Trust that when things don’t seem to go your way, there is a reason. Set you intentions and desires and then let them be. You may really want one outcome and think that is the best but if it does not happen that is because there is something better for you. If you force it you may get it but you will not be happy or be what you thought it was. Set your intentions and desires for the highest and best for you.
6. The Law of Detachment
Allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they are. Do not force solutions—allow solutions to spontaneously emerge. Uncertainty is essential, and your path to freedom. This is also in the same vain as the law of least effort where you set your intentions and desires and the let them be. Do not force it and keep working at it you will be missing the real opportunities for that intention. Also as the law of intentions and desired do not be attached to one outcome becomes that may not be in the highest and best for you. So you will get something better if you pay attention to the signs.
7. The Law of Dharma
Seek your higher Self. Discover your unique talents. Ask yourself how you are best suited to serve humanity. Using your unique talents and serving others brings unlimited bliss and abundance. When you live your life that everything you do is for the highest and best for you and all. You will be the happiest and all of the other laws are working for you. You know you are in this when you do little efforts and accomplish many things

Life is like a journey on a train

Life is like a journey on a train
with its stations, with changes of routes and with accidents!
At birth we boarded the train and met our parents, and we believe they will always travel on our side. However, at some station our parents will step down from the train, leaving us on this journey alone. As time goes by, other people will board the train; and they will be significant i.e. our siblings, friends, children, and even the love of our life. Many will step down and leave a permanent vacuum. Others will go so unnoticed that we don’t realize that they vacated their seats! This train ride will be full of joy, sorrow, fantasy, expectations, hellos, goodbyes, and farewells. Success consists of having a good relationship with all the passengers…requiring that we give the best of ourselves.

The mystery to everyone is: We do not know at which station we ourselves will step down. So, we must live in the best way – Love, forgive, and offer the best of who we are. It is important to do this because when the time comes for us to step down and leave our seat empty, we should leave behind beautiful memories for those who will continue to travel on the train of life without us.
I wish you a joyful journey for the coming years on your train
of life. Reap success, give lots of love and be happy.
More importantly, be thankful for the journey!
Lastly, I thank you for being one of the
passengers on my train!

Thank you

Positive thoughts.com

Your thoughts Your choices

Imagine yourself to be the type of person you want to be , and then be it. You may have to let go of some bad habits and develop some more positive ones, but don’t give up – for it is only in trying and persisting that dreams come true.

Expect changes to occur, and realize that the power to make those changes comes from within you.

Your thoughts and actions , your choices and decisions , and the way you spend your time determine who you are and who you will become.

You are capable and worthy of being and doing anything. You just need the discipline and determination to see it through. It won’t come instantly , and you may backslide from time to time ,but don’t let that deter you.

Never give up.

Life is an ever – changing process , and nothing is final. Therefore , each moment and every new day is a chance to begin anew.

Lessons of life by Wafae Bazzi

Lessons of Life~
I feared being alone,
Until I learned to like myself.

I feared failure,
Until I realized that I only fail when I don’t try.

I feared success,
Until I realized That I had to try In order to be happy with myself.

I feared people’s opinions,
Until I learned that people would have opinions about me anyway.

I feared rejection,
Until I learned to have faith in myself.

I feared pain,
Until I learned that it’s necessary for growth.

I feared the truth,
Until I saw the ugliness in lies.

I feared life
Until I experienced its beauty.

I feared death,
Until I realized that it’s not an end, but a beginning.

I feared my destiny,
Until I realized that I had the power to change my life.

I feared hate,
Until I saw that it was nothing more than ignorance.

I feared love,
Until it touched my heart, making the
darkness fade into endless sunny days.

I feared ridicule,
Until I learned how to laugh at myself.

I feared growing old,
Until I realized that I gained wisdom every day.

I feared the future,
Until I realized that Life just kept getting better.

I feared the past,
Until I realized that It could no longer hurt me.

I feared the dark,
Until I saw the beauty of the starlight.

I feared the light,
Until I learned that the truth would give me strength.

I feared change,
Until I saw that even the most beautiful butterfly
Had to undergo a metamorphos is before it could fly.~~

~Wafae Bazzi

Bhagavad-Gita note 3

We must learn to perform all our actions upon this earth in the right spirit of nishkama karma, desire less actions.

It is important to note that we should only renounce/detach ourselves from the fruits of the actions,and NOT from the Actions themselves

Bhagavad-Gita Note 2

Arjuna is no coward; nor is he foolish, unwise. From social, ethical as well as the narrow worldly point of view, he Marshall his arguments to prove that the battle he is about to fight is not really worthwhile Arjuna is not suffering from momentary weakness or fear. He is passing through a deep spiritual crisis caused by the realisation that the social moral religious and ethical values that he had always cherished as precious and dear to his heart, are suddenly crumbling down all around him. The fundamental principles of his life are challenged by the disturbing reality of the situation he finds himself in.

Such a crisis can come to only noble souls . The unthinking, insensitive,average person does not face such despair or indecision. It only happens to a person whose faith in his values is threatened.

Bhagavad Gita

Arjuna the great hero, the brave warrior,stands confounded and lonely on the field of Kurukshetra. Arjuna is sad and lonely. His mind is agitated, his consciousness is clouded. This hero of numerous fights, suddenly begins to suffer from nervous fright.

This has happened to men and women again and again. Escape, renunciation, turning our back on life and action, running away from it all, seems a very easy option. What am I going to achieve by struggling, we think, giving into despair and pessimism. What is the purpose, what is the meaning to this struggle called life?

The battle here is not a fight between the armies, but a war within a SOUL The chariot which stands amidst the raging armies symbolises the body, in which the mind( Arjuna) is seated,.along with Sri Krishna, the soul , the Self. The horses symbolise the five senses and Kurukshetra is the plane of action , 3D, the plane of friction, the world of strife and contradictions that we inhabit.

Lesson here is That life on earth is a battle, and all of us must fight the Good fight, for the Just cause.

When Arjuna says ” I will not fight” and sinks into silence and despair, Sri Krishna says, ” Be a man, a master man! ABANDON WEAKNESS! Stand up in courage! Stand up and fight the battle .