There comes a moment when you stop looking back with pain and start looking back with wisdom. When you lovingly examine your past—not to dwell, but to understand—you open the door to healing. The old story, the one where you carried the burden alone, where things fell apart, or where you felt stuck in cycles of hurt, no longer has to define you.
We all have chapters we wish we could rewrite, but staying stuck in what went wrong only prolongs the pain. True freedom begins when you acknowledge your past without becoming imprisoned by it. It’s in that sacred pause, that gentle acceptance, where transformation begins.
Mercy—especially toward yourself—is not weakness. It’s the seed of miracles. When you forgive the moments that wounded you, when you release yourself and others from the weight of resentment or guilt, you create space for grace. You’re no longer bound by bitterness. You’re no longer replaying the same suffering. You’re moving forward, lighter and more whole.
You don’t have to carry it all anymore.
Let go of the story that says healing is too late or change is too hard. Step into your present with clarity, compassion, and courage. There is more waiting for you. A new level of peace, joy, and alignment is calling—and this time, you’re ready to rise.
The past shaped you. But it doesn’t own you
Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life. The Power of Shifting from Scarcity to Abundance
Your thoughts shape your reality more than you might imagine. If your inner dialogue is rooted in fear, lack, or self-doubt, your life will reflect that energy. But the moment you choose to shift your mindset—truly shift—it’s as if you’ve opened a new door, and what lies beyond is nothing short of transformative.
At the heart of this shift is the journey from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset.
A scarcity mindset whispers, “There’s not enough… not enough money, love, time, opportunity, or even worth.” It keeps you stuck in comparison, fear, and survival mode. But an abundance mindset says, “There’s more than enough. I am worthy. I am open to receiving it.” It allows you to live from a place of trust and alignment instead of fear.
So, how do you begin to change your mindset?
Identify and Release Limiting Beliefs
Notice the stories you’ve been telling yourself. Where did they come from? Are they really true—or just inherited patterns? Awareness is the first step to change.
Practice Daily Gratitude
Gratitude is powerful because it reminds your mind to focus on what is working rather than what’s missing. What you focus on expands.
Scripting and Visualization
Write your life as if your dreams have already come true. Visualize with emotion—feel what it’s like to live in that reality. These techniques tell your subconscious that abundance is your truth.
Surround Yourself with Empowering Energy
Your environment, your friends, your content—all of it influences your mindset. Choose alignment over convenience.
Changing your mindset isn’t about toxic positivity or denying challenges. It’s about choosing to believe in possibility—even when fear knocks. It’s about creating a new inner blueprint that aligns with the life you deeply desire.
You are not stuck. You are not too late. You are not broken.
You simply need to change the lens through which you see the world.
Because when your mind changes, your life follows.
Taking Responsibility: A Sacred Step Toward Growth and Alignment
Taking responsibility isn’t about wearing guilt like a badge—it’s about reclaiming your power and aligning with your truth. When we own our choices, our words, and how we show up in the world—with honesty, humility, and grace—we invite real transformation. We shift from blaming or avoiding understanding and integrating. This isn’t weakness. It’s a powerful act of self-leadership.
Responsibility doesn’t mean you are the villain in your story. It means you are the author—and the pen is in your hands now. Each time you choose honesty over ego or compassion over defence, you remove the blocks that keep your soul stuck in old patterns. You clear the space for healing, connection, and purpose to flourish.
You’re not who you used to be, and that’s a sign of growth. Even if you faltered yesterday, the fact that you’re reading this now means your spirit is reaching for more—more awareness, more peace, and more authenticity. The universe notices that. Your spiritual team celebrates that. This moment is not a punishment; it’s a portal. A turning point where you can choose again.
And that includes forgiveness. Especially toward yourself. Self-forgiveness dissolves the energetic weight of shame and regret. It lifts you higher—not by erasing the past, but by learning from it. Taking responsibility doesn’t shrink you—it expands you. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being real. And that’s where your power lives.
Live in peace, not in pieces
On a trip to Cambodia, I stumbled upon a quote at a quiet little spot called Peace Café. It said, “Live in peace, not in pieces.” That line etched itself into my memory. Simple, but striking. And the more I reflect on it, the more I see its truth playing out in our everyday lives.
We humans chase peace and happiness like they’re hidden treasures — tucked away in jobs, relationships, travel, success, retreats, or spiritual destinations. We run faster, collect more, scroll endlessly, and always believe the next thing will fix us. But here’s the hard truth: we’re scattered. Our minds in a hundred tabs. Our hearts pulled in different directions. Our days packed, but our souls drained.
We’re living in pieces.
Peace isn’t found in a location. It’s not tucked between paychecks or buried deep in the mountains. Peace isn’t somewhere out there. It’s something we remember within.
When we live in pieces — fragmented by expectations, anxiety, regrets, and distractions — we disconnect from our wholeness. That’s why nothing feels enough. Because when we’re not present, even the best moments slip through us like sand.
But wholeness is always available. Not as something to earn, but something to return to.
It starts by slowing down. Breathing deeper. Saying no when we mean it. Tuning out the noise. Turning inward, even just for five minutes. Listening. Really listening — not to podcasts or playlists, but to ourselves.
We start gathering our scattered pieces. The part of us that’s exhausted. The part that’s afraid. The part that’s hopeful. The part that’s still dreaming. Instead of judging them, we hold space for them. We integrate. We heal. We come back to the center.
When we live in wholeness, peace isn’t a goal — it’s our ground.
This doesn’t mean life becomes easy or perfect. But it becomes real. Steady. Awake. We’re no longer performing or pretending. We’re simply being — and that is where peace and happiness live.
Not in the marketplace. Not in the forests. But within.
So today, check in with yourself. Are you living in peace or in pieces?
Reclaim your wholeness. Not by running, but by returning — to your breath, your body, your being.
The inward journey may be quiet, but it’s the most powerful one you’ll ever take.
Be gentle. Be honest. Be whole.
And live in peace.
True Colours Show in Tough Times: Why Loyalty Matters Most When It’s Hard
It’s easy to be loyal when everything’s going smoothly. When love feels light, problems are few, and life is good. Staying committed doesn’t take much effort. But when things get hard—when stress piles up, when life throws curveballs, when emotional weight gets heavy—that’s when real character shows. And that’s when you find out who someone truly is.
A person who can’t stay loyal and committed when the relationship is tested was never truly in it. Maybe they liked the version of you that was easy to be around, the version that didn’t need support, the version that didn’t bring challenges. But real love isn’t about sticking around for the good times. It’s about choosing each other when everything around you is trying to pull you apart.
Hard times don’t ruin relationships. They reveal them. They strip away the surface-level comfort and show you the foundation underneath. If someone chooses to walk away the moment things get difficult—whether emotionally, financially, or otherwise—it says more about them than it does about the relationship. They weren’t there for the long haul. They weren’t interested in the whole picture, just the highlights.
Loyalty isn’t about blind devotion. It’s about having your partner’s back even when it’s inconvenient. Commitment means showing up even when it’s uncomfortable. And character? That’s proven by actions, not words.
It’s painful when someone you love disappears when you need them most. But it’s also a gift. Because now you know. Now you’re not wasting time investing in someone who was only halfway in. You’re not clinging to an illusion. You’re free to stop hoping they’ll change and start moving toward something better—something real.
True loyalty is rare, but it’s worth waiting for. The right person won’t flinch at the first sign of struggle. They won’t make you feel like a burden when life gets hard. They’ll stand beside you, not because it’s easy, but because you matter.
So if someone leaves when it gets tough, let them. They were never your people to begin with. The one who stays? That’s who you build with. That’s who deserves your heart.
Keep Smiling
Smile– A smile is a choice, not a miracle. Don’t wait for people to smile. Show them how. A genuine smile makes you and everyone around you feel better. The simple act of smiling sends a message to your brain that you’re happy. And when you’re happy, your body pumps out all kinds of feel-good endorphins. This reaction has been studied since the 1980’s and has been proven a number of times. Bottom line: Smiling actually makes you happier.
Keep smiling!
Anger
When They Call It “Anger Issues” But It’s Really Just Years of Being Disrespected.
Let’s get one thing straight: anger is not the enemy. Anger is a signal. A flare. A final, desperate attempt by your body and soul to say enough is enough.
I’ve been called names. “Stupid housewife.” “Overreacting.” “Too emotional.” I’ve been dismissed and disrespected—not by strangers, but by the very people I’ve poured myself into. The people I’ve stood by, cared for, supported, unconditionally. Day in, day out. For years.
And for what?
To be told, I have “anger management issues” because I finally spoke up?
No. That’s not what this is.
This isn’t about losing control. This is about what happens when your voice is ignored for too long. When you’re constantly put down, mocked, belittled—and you’re expected to stay silent, smile, and serve.
This is what happens when the only time people start paying attention to you is when you finally raise your voice—and then, instead of listening, they twist the narrative. Suddenly you are the problem. You are the danger. You need fixing.
But here’s something they never see: I’ve been working on myself for years. I’ve tried to stay calm, tried to respond instead of react, and tried to carry myself with patience even when I felt like breaking down inside. I’ve read, I’ve reflected, I’ve grown. I’ve done the work, and I the inner is still ongoing.
But it doesn’t matter. Because in their minds, the version of me they’ve decided on—the “angry” one, the “difficult” one—is the only version they’re willing to see. They hold onto that image like a script they refuse to rewrite, no matter how much I change.
Let’s call it what it is: emotional neglect. Disrespect, normalized. Gaslighting, dressed up as “concern.”
I am tired. Not because I’m angry—but because I’ve had to carry the emotional labour of this family while being told I don’t matter. Because the second I set a boundary or say “this isn’t okay,” I’m made out to be the villain.
Well, I’m not the villain. I’m the one who’s been holding this whole thing together.
So here’s a message to anyone who’s ever judged someone like me: if you’re more uncomfortable with a woman raising her voice than with the years of silence that came before it, maybe you’re the one who needs to look in the mirror.
Anger isn’t the problem. The problem is the disrespect that caused it. And if you really cared, you’d stop diagnosing and start listening.
I may be exhausted, but I’m not broken. I’m still standing, still speaking, still choosing to believe that my voice matters. And I will keep showing up—for myself this time. Not to prove anything to those who never tried to understand, but because I finally know I deserve better.
Love yourself
🙆🏻♀️ *”Do you love ❤️ me?”* Alice asked.
*”No, I don’t love you!”* replied the White Rabbit 🐰.
Alice frowned and clasped her hands together as she did whenever she felt hurt.
*”See?”* replied the White Rabbit. *”Now you’re going to start asking yourself what makes you so imperfect and what did you do wrong so that I can’t love you at least a little. You know, that’s why I can’t love you. You will not always be loved Alice, there will be days when others will be tired and bored with life, will have their heads in the clouds, and will hurt you.*
Because people are like that, they somehow always end up hurting each other’s feelings, whether through carelessness, misunderstanding, or conflicts with themselves.
If you don’t love yourself, at least a little, if you don’t create an armor of self-love and happiness around your heart, the feeble annoyances caused by others will become lethal and will destroy you.
The first time I saw you, I made a pact with myself: *’I will avoid loving you until you learn to love ❤️ yourself.’*
— Lewis Carrol, Alice in Wonderland
AbundanceActivators
1. GIVING OUT: Giving out is about your TIME, TALENT & TREASURE, especially in areas where you’re holding back. Giving out is about adding more value through your time, talent, and treasure, especially if you have fallen into the trap of “waiting” for things to change, for the right time or opportunity.
Time is about helping others or serving others without conditions.
TALENT is about giving more value through your abilities.
Treasure is about giving money to your source of spiritual nourishment.
We are put on this earth to add value where value is needed. We provide value and are compensated for it. It’s a beautiful exchange of energy.
2. GIVING AWAY: GIVING away is about releasing things you don’t need or use anymore. All the stuff you’re holding onto in your closets, cupboards, garage, store rooms that you can’t let go. It’s symbolic of a greater overhaul. It’s a stuck energy with a story of lack or limitations attached. When we take out time to clear out any excess – anything from clothes to friendship/ relationship we’ve outgrown to business tasks that drain us – we clear the way for new and productive energy to flow freely. As you let this energy flow again, in the form of giving away,throwing away, or selling these things, it makes room for the NEW ABUNDANCE to flow in.
3. GIVING UP: GIVING up is almost letting go of habitual resentment, criticism, judgement, complaining, or physical habits that aren’t congruent with your higher vision or goals. Something more is trying to emerge, but if you’re holding on to these vibrationally heavier habits, they’re holding you down, blocking the flow, and increasing your struggle and pain. We do have a RIGHT to feel angry or sad, but does it feel good ?? Our feelings are the bridge to our circumstances. We need to give up feeling bad. When you hold onto negativity, you block the flow of abundance. Raise yourself to a higher frequency by being mindful of your thoughts and feelings. Make an effort to feel only positive emotions.
4. GIVING IN: Giving in is about SURRENDER. You’ve activated a larger life but are still holding on to smaller self-concepts. You will not be able to grow to the next level without releasing this resistance and surrendering to what’s trying to emerge. When you can open yourself up to a true surrender of what is keeping you stuck, only then can you begin to SHIFT and RELEASE it. The floodgates of blessings will open if you can quiet the voice of the EGO and trust the guidance of the DIVINE.
5. GIVING THANKS : If you take a moment to inventory your life, you will likely find that you are already quite abundant in many areas. No, it’s at that moment that you can activate a partnership with the universe by maintaining a deep feeling of gratitude for all that you already have .
An attitude of gratitude is the foundation of abundance. When you live in gratitude, the universe gives you things to be grateful for. Align yourself to the same frequency as abundance .
6. GIVING TO YOURSELF: Whatever you’re trying to get from ” out there” is blocking the flow of it in your life because whatever’s missing is what you’re not giving. We teach others and the world how to treat us by way of example. When you demonstrate love for yourself, you send a signal that you are to be loved. When you set boundaries,you teach people about what is most important to you. When you flow your heart and live a life of purpose, the universe rises and meets you halfway, graciously revealing your next best steps.
As you strive to spend more of your moments in alignment with your deepest desire, the law of attraction begins to work in your favour, and the blessings pour in.
7. FORGIVING: Forgiving is a powerful gift and principle. The magic is in the word itself, For-Giving. It’s about giving, not getting. It’s about extending yourself, not withholding. It’s about loving your enemies, praying for those who hurt you, returning love for hate, releasing everyone from karmic & emotional debt so that I your heart nobody owes you anything and vice versa This way, the energy gets freed up. Forgiveness does not make you weak. On the contrary, it takes great strength and the compassion of a leader to forgive someone who has wronged you and to forgive yourself. As the forgiver, you regain control of your thoughts and emotions. Your energy had been on loan to another, and Forgiveness restores it to you.
Inspired by ” The wealth Activators ” by Derek Rydall.
The Silent Struggle: Men’s Mental Health and the Fear of Speaking Up
For too many men, pain stays locked behind a smile and buried under the weight of silence. Mental health is not a gendered issue, but the way it’s handled often is. While conversations around emotional well-being are becoming more open, men still face an uphill battle when it comes to expressing their thoughts, needs, and struggles.
The reason? Fear. Fear of being judged. Fear of being seen as weak. Fear of being ridiculed or misunderstood.
From a young age, boys are taught — directly or indirectly — that being “manly” means being tough, stoic, and unshakable. Vulnerability is often mistaken for weakness. Crying or showing emotion gets labelled as soft. And so, many men grow up suppressing their feelings, bottling them up until the pressure becomes unbearable.
This pressure is compounded by society’s image of what a “real man” should be: strong, independent, always in control. But mental health doesn’t care how masculine you are. Depression, anxiety, trauma — they don’t discriminate. They creep in, quietly and persistently, often hidden behind sarcasm, anger, or silence.
The consequences are serious. Suicide rates among men are significantly higher than among women in many countries. Substance abuse, violence, and self-isolation are often coping mechanisms when healthy outlets feel out of reach. And still, too many men hesitate to ask for help because they’re afraid of what others will think.
It’s time we change that.
Mental strength isn’t about suffering in silence — it’s about having the courage to speak up. Real masculinity should include emotional honesty. Talking to a friend, seeing a therapist, or simply admitting that things aren’t okay is not a weakness. It’s self-respect. It’s taking control, not losing it.
We also need to do our part to create safe spaces. Listen without judgment. Check in with the men in your life — not just about work or sports, but about how they’re really doing. Let them know it’s okay to drop the act.
The more we normalize emotional openness, the more lives we’ll save. Men don’t need to suffer quietly. They need to be heard. Let’s stop equating silence with strength — and start building a world where speaking up is not just accepted but expected.
SELF LOVE AND SOUL HEALING 