I walked through silence,
through storms that spoke in whispers,
learning that power isn’t loud,
it hums softly beneath the ribs,
where truth and peace entwine.
I have been broken open,
not to be shattered,
but to see the light that waited
beneath my own skin,
patient, kind, and knowing.
I’ve met my shadows,
not as enemies,
but as teachers
who showed me the way back
to the woman I had once forgotten.
Now I see my strength was never in endurance,
but in my capacity to love
even when misunderstood.
My softness was never weakness,
it was the language of my soul.
I no longer seek permission
to speak, to feel, to be.
I breathe with my heart unguarded,
trusting that the path ahead
unfolds exactly as it should.
I am not what I lost
I am what I found within the loss.
I am home in my body,
safe in my truth,
rooted in peace.
My power is not control
it is surrender.
It is love, unfiltered, unbound,
and finally,
mine.
Transform Your Pain Into Medication
There comes a time when pain no longer feels like an enemy, but a quiet teacher disguised in discomfort. The ache that once made you question your strength slowly becomes the voice that guides you inward asking you to pause, to feel, to listen.
We often run from pain as though it’s a sign of weakness, when in truth, it’s the beginning of transformation. The heart breaks not to destroy you, but to let light seep through the cracks. Every wound you carry has something sacred to say about who you were, who you are becoming, and what you are meant to release.
Pain is not meant to be numbed. It is meant to be understood. When you allow yourself to sit in its depth, without judgment or escape, it starts to shift. What once felt unbearable begins to soften. The bitterness turns to wisdom. The sorrow becomes empathy. The chaos, a kind of clarity.
This is how pain turns into medication not by erasing what hurt you, but by alchemizing it. The same fire that burned you also forges your strength. The same tears that blurred your vision cleanse your soul.
When you can look at your scars and feel gratitude instead of grief, that’s when healing begins. Because you realize pain was never your punishment; it was your purification.
So breathe through it. Trust its rhythm. Let your pain teach you how to love yourself in ways comfort never could. For within every ache lies the medicine your soul has been waiting for.
The Thin Line Between What Happened and How It Happened
Every incident has two aspects, what happened and how it happened. The thin line between these two is where the truth quietly resides.
Most of us get caught in the surface of what, the facts, the sequence, the visible story. But rarely do we pause long enough to explore the how the emotions, choices, reactions, and energy that shaped those facts. The what is often what we remember, but the how reveals what we learned.
When we replay a painful event, we often narrate the what: They said this. I did that. It ended this way. But when we reflect on the how, the perspective deepens: How did I respond? How did I allow it to affect me? How did my silence, fear, or love influence what came next?
That “how” tells the real story not of the incident, but of us. It shows where we stood in awareness, in love, or in pain at that moment. It exposes whether we reacted from our wounds or from our wisdom.
Truth doesn’t live in the drama of the event; it lives in the quiet reflection afterward in that thin space where the what meets the how. That is where clarity dawns. That is where healing begins.
So, the next time life shakes you, don’t just ask, “What happened?”
Ask instead, “How did it happen and who was I in that moment?” Because understanding how can transform even the hardest what into a profound lesson of growth.
When Self-Respect Ends, So Does the Relationship
Love can survive many storms, distance, misunderstanding, and even pain. But there’s one thing it can not survive without: respect.
When self-respect fades in a relationship, it’s not just the bond that weakens. It’s your connection to yourself that begins to erode. You start doubting your worth, silencing your truth, and compromising pieces of your soul just to keep the peace. At first, it feels like love requires sacrifice. But soon, you realize what you’re sacrificing is yourself.
Love without respect turns into endurance.
You begin enduring silence, criticism, neglect, and emotional withdrawal, believing that maybe things will change, that maybe love will heal it all. But love that costs your self-respect isn’t healing. It’s self-abandonment.
Self-respect is not ego. It’s the quiet knowing that you deserve kindness, honesty, and reciprocity. It’s the strength to walk away when staying means losing your peace. It’s the moment you stop asking, “Why don’t they value me?” and start remembering, “Why did I stop valuing myself?”
True love does not demand the death of self-respect. It deepens it. It allows both people to grow, not shrink. When mutual respect disappears, the relationship stops being a place of safety and becomes a space of survival.
Sometimes, the bravest act of love is letting go, not because you stopped loving, but because you started respecting yourself again.
Because when self-respect ends, so does the relationship, even if you’re still physically in it.
Listen from Your Mind, Speak from Your Heart
How often do we speak without truly listening? How often do we react before we pause and think? Life constantly asks us to navigate the space between thought and feeling, yet we rarely stop to reflect on how we communicate.
Listening from your mind is not about overthinking or overanalyzing. It is about observing, understanding, and giving space to clarity. It’s the quiet awareness that notices patterns, considers perspectives, and asks, “What is really happening here?”
Speaking from your heart is not always easy. It requires courage, honesty, and vulnerability. It means expressing yourself with authenticity, without pretence, without fear of judgment. It is the language of compassion, connection, and truth.
When the mind listens and the heart speaks, something shifts. Conversations become gentler. Reactions soften. Understanding deepens. We no longer feel the need to defend or compete, but instead, we create space for empathy, reflection, and connection.
Pause for a moment the next time you feel the urge to speak. Let your mind absorb what is being said. Let your heart decide what deserves to be spoken. This balance does not make communication perfect, but it makes it real. It makes it human.
Because in the end, we do not only need to be heard, we need to be understood.
My truth
My Truth Is…
My truth is that love, for me, has always been about respect, understanding, and acceptance without judgement. In my marriage, I did my best to keep an open heart, ready to build a life built on companionship and mutual respect. But somewhere along the way, love began to feel conditional. I found myself trying to earn understanding instead of being met with it. I silenced parts of myself to keep peace, but in doing so, I lost the peace within me.
My truth is that I always loved deeply, maybe too deeply, believing that love could heal what respect and empathy couldn’t. But love can not breathe in an environment where one person’s voice is dismissed and the other’s truth dominates.
As a mother, my truth is that every choice I made came from love, even the difficult ones. I wanted to protect, nurture, and guide my daughters, even when it meant being misunderstood. I may not have been perfect, but my heart was always in the right place.
My truth is that I value connection where hearts can speak without fear, where being seen and heard is natural, not earned. I value relationships that are rooted in honesty and where imperfections are met with grace, not judgement.
And my truth today, after everything, is that love begins with me. Respect begins with me. Understanding begins with me. I no longer need anyone else to validate what I know within, that my love has always been pure, my intentions sincere, and my soul resilient.
Mastering the Fire Within – 7 Levels of Anger
Anger is not the enemy. It’s a messenger — a signal that something within us needs attention. The problem begins when we let anger drive our reactions instead of guiding our awareness.
Here are seven levels to help you move from reacting to responding:
1. Awareness
The first step is noticing anger rising within you, the tension, the heat, and the impulse to lash out. Awareness gives you power. You can’t manage what you don’t recognize.
2. Pause & Breathe
Before you say or do something you might regret, pause. Take a deep breath in, and slowly release it. This simple act activates calmness and helps you regain control.
3. Identify the Trigger
Ask yourself: What really made me angry? Sometimes, the surface trigger is not true cause it might be an unmet expectation, a sense of unfairness, or emotional pain from the past.
4. Shift Perspective
Step into the other person’s shoes. Could there be a misunderstanding? Is this situation temporary? A change in perception often dissolves half the anger.
5. Express Constructively
Anger can be expressed without aggression. Speak your truth calmly. Use words that heal, not harm. Assertiveness is strength; aggression is weakness disguised as power.
6. Find Healthy Outlets
Physical movement, art, or journaling helps release emotional energy. When anger is not expressed healthily, it turns inward as guilt or outward as rage. Let it move through you, not control you.
7. Reflect & Grow
Every experience of anger is a mirror reflecting your emotional growth. Ask: What did this situation teach me about myself? With reflection, anger becomes not a destroyer but a teacher.
Learning to manage anger doesn’t mean suppressing it. It means transforming it into understanding, boundaries, and inner peace.
My Truth: A Heart That Still Chooses Love
There comes a point in every woman’s life when silence begins to speak louder than words.
My journey through marriage, motherhood, and heartbreak taught me that love without respect feels hollow, and peace without truth feels like exile.
For years, I silenced parts of myself to keep harmony, to protect others, and to hold my world together. But through that silence, I discovered something unbreakable within me. This truth, my truth is no longer about seeking approval or belonging. It’s about honouring the woman who stayed kind, even when misunderstood, and who still chooses love, but never at the cost of herself.
My Truth
My truth is gentle, yet strong
it has lived through silence,
through words that cut,
and love that forgot how to listen.
My truth has stood in storms,
not to fight,
but to remember what it means
to love without losing myself.
I gave, I nurtured, I believed
in respect, in understanding,
in the quiet language of care.
My truth now whispers:
love is not pain,
respect is not earned by silence,
and peace is not found in pleasing.
My truth is my home,
and my heart
still open, still kind,
still enough.
Our truths are not born from perfection they are shaped in the quiet moments when we finally stop running from ourselves. If my journey has taught me anything, it’s that speaking our truth is an act of love, not rebellion. It’s how we come home to the deepest parts of who we are.
So, take a moment to sit with yourself beyond the noise, beyond expectations. Ask your heart what it needs to feel safe, to feel seen, to feel whole. Your truth may tremble at first, but in time, it will find its voice. And when it does, may it remind you, as mine did, that you are worthy of love that feels like peace.
The Silent Prison of Beliefs
True courage is not found on battlefields or in the noise of the world. It is found in the quiet rebellion against our own minds.
To challenge our beliefs is to walk through fire, for our beliefs are the invisible walls that define the limits of our reality.
From childhood, we are not merely raised. We are domesticated. Through love and fear, reward, and punishment, we learn what to say, what to suppress, how to please, and how to belong. Slowly, the voice of the world becomes the voice in our head. We inherit beliefs not by choice but by survival, and yet, we cling to them as if they were truth itself.
These beliefs become the book of laws that govern our every thought. Within us lives a judge who condemns and a victim who suffers, both enslaved by the same illusions. And even when we awaken to the idea that these beliefs are not ours, guilt and shame whisper: How dare you go against the rules?
What we do not see is that ninety-five per cent of what we believe is not truth but agreement.
Agreements born from fear, from the longing to be loved, from the desperation to be enough.
We spend our lives searching for truth, beauty, and love, unaware that we are like travellers seeking water while standing in the rain.
We are blind not because truth is hidden, but because our eyes are veiled by lies we have accepted as our own.
And so we suffer, not from life itself, but from the stories we tell about life.
No one has ever abused us more than we have abused ourselves in the name of perfection.
But there is a way back, a path that leads from illusion to clarity, from self-rejection to self-acceptance.
A way to walk the earth lightly, untethered by the chains of belief.
This is the wisdom of The Four Agreements ( book by Don Miguel Ruiz), ancient truths dressed in simple words, yet capable of transforming the human spirit.
1. Be Impeccable with Your Word
Every word is a seed. Some grow into flowers, others into thorns.
To be impeccable with your word is to become the gardener of your inner world.
Speak truth, not poison. Speak love, not judgment.
When you honour your word to yourself and to others, your speech becomes light, and your heart begins to heal.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Each soul walks through its own storm. What others say or do reveals their weather, not yours.
When you take things personally, you invite their chaos into your calm.
Let the winds pass. What is meant for you will never wound you; what wounds you was never meant for you.
Freedom begins when you stop carrying what was never yours.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
The mind is a restless storyteller, forever filling silence with fiction.
We suffer not from what is, but from what we imagine.
To assume is to see through fog; to communicate is to clear it.
Ask. Listen. Clarify. In truth, there is peace.
To love someone is not to mould them but to see them wholly, without expectation.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is not measured in perfection but in presence.
It changes, just as the sun and seasons change.
Doing your best is not about striving — it is about being.
When you give your full heart to this moment, you stop living for reward and start living in reverence.
To live by these agreements is to remember who you are beneath the noise to return home to your essence.
When truth replaces illusion, spirit moves freely through you. Life begins to flow with ease, and what you need finds its way to you effortlessly.
This is the mastery of love, of gratitude, of intent, of spirit, the mastery of life itself.
It is not a destination, but remembering that freedom was never outside you.
It was always within, waiting for you to unlearn the lies you were taught to live by.
The Secret to Lasting Romantic Intimacy
If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you may have asked yourself: What happened to the joy we used to feel in the honeymoon phase? Why don’t we talk with the same spark or feel the same bliss when lying side by side? These tender, almost magical moments are not just sentimental. They are the hallmarks of true romantic intimacy.
Romantic intimacy is more than passion; it is a self-sustaining cycle of adoration and appreciation that strengthens the bond between partners. Yet, all too often, daily stress, routine, and unspoken resentments get in the way of this cycle. As intimacy weakens, many people notice their overall well-being and even zest for life beginning to fade. This is no coincidence.
Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow, argues that reclaiming our ability to bond deeply with our partners is essential for long-term life fulfilment. Research backs this up, showing that intimacy fuels satisfaction, mental health, and emotional resilience (Zaider et al., 2010). So, how do we nurture intimacy in relationships?
1. A Focus on the We
In thriving relationships, we matter more than the I. When partners prioritize each other’s happiness, the relationship naturally strengthens. Positive psychology research shows that giving to others produces greater fulfilment than focusing on personal gains (Dunn, Aknin, & Norton, 2008). When you consider what will uplift your partner and act on it, they are more likely to reciprocate creating a nourishing cycle of love and appreciation.
2. Intimacy Combines the Physical and Emotional
Romantic intimacy is not just about emotional closeness or physical affection it’s about both working in harmony. Emotional intimacy grows through open communication, while physical intimacy is built on trust and touch. When combined, they create a deeper connection. Imagine coming home after a hard day: instead of asking questions, your partner simply offers a comforting back rub. In that moment, you feel both cared for emotionally and soothed physically. This balance is where intimacy thrives.
3. Intimacy Has an Upwards Trajectory
Intimacy is not static it must be nurtured. Without care, it naturally declines, either from unresolved conflict or from complacency in overly comfortable routines. Small ruptures like fights require active repair through apologies, forgiveness, and gestures of love. At the same time, even in peaceful times, couples should renew their bond by exploring new experiences together and learning more about each other’s evolving needs. Intimacy grows when it is continuously invested in.
The Benefits of Romantic Intimacy
A healthy, intimate relationship offers profound benefits: greater life satisfaction, lower stress, emotional security, and even protection against anxiety and depression (Zaider et al., 2010). In essence, romantic intimacy is not just about keeping love alive it is about keeping life itself vibrant, connected, and meaningful.
The truth is, intimacy doesn’t fade by chance; it fades when left unattended. By focusing on the we, weaving emotional and physical closeness, and choosing to grow together, couples can sustain not just romance but also their shared joy in living.
SELF LOVE AND SOUL HEALING 